Treatments · before your appointment
A small silicone device that holds the pelvic organs where they belong. It eases heaviness and stress leaking without hormones or surgery, and it's one of the most under-discussed options in midlife care. Here's what to ask for.
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Most common first fit
A flexible silicone hoop that folds in half to go in. Easiest to insert and remove yourself, and it can stay in during penetrative sex. If a pessary is offered at all, this is usually the first one tried.
Diagrams are simplified line drawings, not to exact scale. Sizing is done by hand at a fitting.
How it works
A pessary sits above the pelvic floor muscles and takes the load off tissue that has stretched, so the dragging, heaviness or bulge eases immediately rather than over weeks.
It does nothing to your hormones and nothing to the rest of your body. Most women can't feel a correctly fitted one, and neither can a partner during sex with most shapes.
Around half of women who have given birth have some degree of prolapse on examination, and the estrogen drop of perimenopause often turns a silent one into a symptomatic one. A pessary is reasonable at almost any point in that story — waiting for surgery, declining surgery, wanting to keep running or lifting, or simply wanting the heaviness gone by Friday.
The pairing
Thin, dry postmenopausal tissue is more prone to rubbing where the silicone rests.
A cream, tablet or ring of local vaginal estrogen restores thickness and elasticity and cuts urinary tract infection risk. Blood levels stay very low, so the risk profile is much lower than systemic hormone therapy. Guidelines say it can often be used after breast cancer, but that call belongs with your oncology team.
If a pessary is offered without vaginal estrogen alongside it, that's a fair thing to ask about. See the vaginal estrogen options.
Appointment day
Sizing is trial and error, and that is normal. Expect to try two or three in one visit.
They estimate a size
An internal examination, then a first guess. There is no scan or measurement that gets this right in advance — sizing is done by hand and by feel.
You stand up and move
Walk, cough, squat, bear down. A correct fit is one you cannot feel, that doesn't press on the bladder or bowel, and that stays put under pressure.
They try another size
Two or three in one visit is completely normal. Going home and coming back for a refit is part of the process, not a sign anything went wrong.
You agree who manages it
Whether you take it out and clean it yourself, and how often you're seen. This is the detail most often left out of the appointment.
Take this in with you
Bring your symptoms in concrete terms
Heaviness by the end of the day, a bulge you can feel or see, leaking on the second kilometre, needing to splint to empty your bowel. Specifics get you a better fit than “things feel off down there”.
Say what you want to be able to do
Run a 10K, lift heavy, get through a shift on your feet, have comfortable sex. The activity shapes the shape.
Ask for vaginal estrogen alongside it
If a pessary is offered without local estrogen, that's a fair thing to raise. It makes the device more comfortable and the tissue more resilient.
Day to day
There's no single right routine — but there is always a routine. Know which one you're on before you leave the fitting.
Out once or twice a week
Seen every 3–6 months
Get it checked rather than wait if:
These usually mean the fit needs adjusting or the tissue needs more estrogen, not that the pessary has failed.
Honest limits
It doesn't shrink or reverse the prolapse. None of these close off treatment; they change the order.
Unexplained bleeding or an active infection
Needs investigating and treating first. Postmenopausal bleeding is always a same-week conversation.
Very advanced prolapse with a short vagina
Some anatomies won't hold any shape reliably. Repeated expulsions after several fittings is useful information for a surgical conversation.
You can't get back for follow-up
A forgotten pessary left in for years can cause erosion. If regular checks aren't realistic for you, say so, and choose a self-managed type or a different route.
The sentence
“I’d like a trial of a pessary, and vaginal estrogen alongside it. Can you fit me, or refer me to someone who does?”
Pessary fitting is a skill, and not every doctor has kept it up. If yours doesn't fit them, a urogynaecologist, a specialist menopause or continence clinic, or a pelvic floor physiotherapist with fitting training will. Asking for the referral by name is often faster than asking generally for help with prolapse.
Find a pelvic health practitionerEditorial, not medical advice. Sizing and fitting belong with a doctor, specialist or pelvic floor physiotherapist. Use this as a starting conversation rather than a prescription.
What this page is based on
Graded on the same A–D scale as the rest of the library.
A pessary is a recognised first-line, non-surgical option for pelvic organ prolapse — not a fallback for women who can't have surgery.
The guideline that should be behind every prolapse conversation. Worth naming if a pessary trial isn't offered to you.
Read the sourceThe trial evidence comparing pessaries with surgery and with pelvic floor training is thinner than the strength of the recommendation suggests.
Bugge et al · pessaries (mechanical devices) for pelvic organ prolapse
Widely used and low-risk isn't the same as extensively trialled. Women report real symptom relief; the head-to-head research is limited.
Read the sourceLocal vaginal estrogen alongside a pessary supports the tissue it sits against and reduces irritation and erosion.
Genitourinary syndrome of menopause position statement — the reason we keep pairing the two.
Read the sourceSupervised pelvic floor muscle training is the other evidence-backed conservative option, and it stacks with a pessary rather than competing.
Dumoulin et al · pelvic floor muscle training
Read the sourceWhere to next
The symptom
The three types, why estrogen matters, and the order to try things in.
Read guideAdjacent
Dryness, leaking, recurrent UTIs and painful sex, handled together.
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